Welcome! Today’s guest is Vienda Maria, who is a writer and mentor, currently based in New Zealand. She teaches women who want to do great things in the world to choose freedom in life and work.
Vienda shares her message and insights through her blog and many magazine articles. You can connect with her here.
The decision to have/not have a child needs to be made from a place of wholeness - not from lack or fear. Share on X
What you’ll hear in this episode:
Vienda made a personal choice to not have children. Motherhood wasn’t something she really dreamed about or felt was a top priority.
A couple of years ago, her mother let her know that her expectation was that Vienda should have children, to bring meaning into her life.
Her mother was hurt, and upset with Vienda’s choice, feeling that it was a waste.
This clarifying incident helped Vienda cement her choice and feel empowered, even though it was a confronting situation.
These huge life choices can change over the years. As the decades go by, priorities also change.
Vienda has never felt any social pressure from friends to have children, but feels that society at large seems to expect every single woman to have a child!
The world is full of archaic thinking about families and what is expected.
We, as Western women, are privileged to be able to make choices, because so many people in the world don’t have that freedom.
There was a grieving process that Vienda went through, complete with sadness and tears of letting go of the idea of motherhood—even though she knew it was the right decision.
Whatever creative expression we choose is where fulfilment comes from. This is an extremely personal choice.
Vienda’s mother chose to have her at age 21 so she could feel love in her life; it’s a big responsibility for a child to bear.
People automatically assume that people without children have ZERO responsibilities and commitments. We need to challenge our limited perspectives and perceptions.
For more about Vienda Maria connect here.
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