S         Self-responsibility  – it’s all down to you gorgeous.  

When you take full responsibility for your own needs and stop projecting these onto others, your life will tranform before your eyes.  You can blame your childhood, the weather or the way your stars are aligned.  How’s that working out for you?

E         Empower yourself  – that’s your job. 

No-one else can fulfil you or soothe  those emotional wounds that you may be blocking, repressing or denying with the myriad of ways that you keep yourself busy.  Save yourself a whole heap of wasted time, set yourself free and take a courageous step forward.  What are you waiting for?  The world needs YOU.

L         Learn to become your best friend.  

Let’s face it, you’re stuck with you for the rest of your life, so why not take some time to get to know you?   Imagine if you only spent half the time getting to know yourself, that you spend getting to know others.  You’d soon be bosom buddies.   Why not make a commitment to listen to the voice of your heart?  There are some beautiful, powerful messages inside.

F         Feel all of your feelings and forgive yourself.  

Allow yourself to experience your full spectrum of emotions.  When you shut down what is trying to be expressed, however uncomfortable it may be, it’s not going anywhere.  It’s waiting for you, brewing and stewing under the surface, storing itself at a cellular level.

L         Let the past go. 

It’s only where you’ve been but it does not have to define the rest of your life.  You can choose differently in each moment so why not make a conscious choice in this moment to be present. Open yourself up to the limitless potential inside of you. You are unlimited and you are amazing. Seriously.  It’s the truth.

O         Observe yourself with compassion.   

Instead of reacting to something that is triggering an emotional response, become the curious observer. Ask ‘what part of me is calling my attention?’.  Listen for the answer.  It just may surprise you.

V         Validate yourself.  

Stop looking externally for attention and reassurance when you’re feeling insecure.  This is a bottomless pit my love and will only satisfy you for a very short time until you need the next fix.  Instead, stop and take a few deep breaths. Check in with yourself.  What do you need from you?  The answer is ALWAYS different variations on ‘more love’.  

E         Ease up.  

Give your inner critic the day off and ask her to find something more constructive to do, like watching the grass grow.  Rome was not built in a day and self-love is a choice that you continue to make moment by moment. It’s a lifelong journey of discovering the beautiful, complex, uniquely unrepeatable Being that you are.  There’s a whole heap of magic inside you.  Share it with us. PLEASE.

 Now for the part you’ve been waiting for – the self-love grammar lesson 😉

Is it surprising so many people struggle with this topic, when it’s rarely even spelt correctly?  Forgive me for being so anal, but it’s truly one of my pet peeves.

All “self-” compounds whether they are adjectives or nouns are hyphenated, especially when used as a prefix.  So it’s ALWAYS self-love, not selflove or self love.  The Catholic nuns who drilled all these rules into me would turn in their graves at the blatant disregard for the majestic hyphen.  However, don’t take the nuns’ teaching as gospel, look it up for yourself.  Now there’s self-empowerment 😉

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