Have you ever felt completely betrayed, lied to, let down, deceived and as though the rug was pulled out from under your feet when you were least expecting it?
So why is that so painful?
Well it’s the shattering of those illusions of the fantasy of the future. The pain of betrayal is a very confronting reminder that the present moment is the only guarantee that we have.
When my marriage broke down I was talking to a teacher about how I felt so betrayed and lied to. She said “the truth is revealing itself in every moment. Nothing is ever hidden.” In our intimate relationships, we choose what we want to see and we ignore the rest. Often the truth is incovenient….
“The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off.” Gloria Steinhem
See my last very short video blog on this topic.
Is it time to have a really honest conversation with yourself? Until we truly experience this, it’s impossible for us to be open and experience intimacy with anyone else.
I’d also like to remind you that the only guaranteed life-long relationship that we will ever have – is the one with ourself. That’s unavoidable and that’s reality. It doesn’t quite fit the fantasy that we have playing out – the relationship dynamic that we are attached to. So I’d like to leave you with three questions to consider:
Where are you NOT being honest with yourself?
Which part of you are you ready to acknowledge and bring into the light?
Which part of you have you been betraying?
I would love to hear in the comments box below if this has brought anything into your awareness. Are you ready to have an honest conversation and lifelong relationship with yourself?